friend noun \ˈfrend\
Definition of FRIEND
1a : one attached to another by affection or esteem b : acquaintance
2a : one that is not hostile b : one that is of the same nation, party, or group
3: one that favors or promotes something (as a charity)
4: a favored companion
What is your definition of a friend? There is a very thin line on this definition for me, I have yet to find a very close female friend. I have a female friend right now that I would consider a close friend even though her and I do not talk daily or see each other daily does not mean we are not close. Her and I both flake on each other at times, and we both understand that life happens especially when we both have children. We don't get upset when we have to back out of plans. I think it is because we are both understanding. Friendship is about understanding, trust, a good listener and someone who will not judge you or go behind your back and talk crap about you to other people. It is so VERY hard to find a good friend that is trustworthy and not someone who stabs you in the back. I have had many many "friends" walk out of my life and well I don't let this bother me because if they were true friends they would have never walked out. Friends fight, friends have disagreements BUT friends will say sorry and forgive and move on. I find it very weird that ALOT of people have a hard time with saying sorry and forgiveness. Not many people now how to forgive and it blows me away. I was taught to say sorry and forgive those that apologize.
I really never knew what a "TRUE" friend was until I met my husband. We have had some tough times and times where we have apologized and both have been forgiven and we have a love that is so strong and a friendship like no other. We have grown so so so much in the last 5 years and continue to grow. He has help teach me what a true friendship is about. He has taught me it is ok to fight, but it is even better to apologize and forgive each other when feelings get hurt. We always apologize when wrong and forgive when needed. It is very weird how many people have a hard time with this, even young children. Hannah has a few friends that won't accept an apology and are very mean. I guess this is how they are raised, of course they learn from example. If their parents don't forgive or say sorry how can you expect the children to do it as well. I have taught my girls to apologize when needed and forgive when needed. The fighting is ridiculous, life is to short for the ups and downs of a "so" called friendship, the I want to be your friend until you say something that pisses me off then I am done and don't ever want to talk to you again. This is NOT me and will not do that. I forgive easily and accept apologies. I guess I will ever understand why some people are so miserable, when life is so short and we are all human and make mistakes. Hannah is learning this right now, she is learning that we are all human and we all make mistakes, she is learning that not many people can apologize and not many people can forgive and she is learning to turn the other cheek.
So the moral of my story is love deeply, forgive easily, and apologize when needed. If everyone lived by those three little rules then the world just might be a little less hostile. I can tell you though that some things an apology will never change and forgiveness is not possible but everyday things and little spats with friends, siblings and significant others are possible.
Tell your friends how much they mean to you and that you appreciate them. If you got any.............
