Inspiration

Last weeks episode of Greys Anatomy was awesome I think!  Miranda really said somethings to her father about getting a divorce that hit home to me.  I could totally relate to everything she said.  Here is what she said to her disapproving father and it really touched my heart.

"My child is healthy,  he may not be with me tonight.  But he is healthy and well loved boy and he is a happy boy!   And staying in an unhappy marriage, a marriage that was out grown, a marriage full of ultimatums, numbness and resentment.  That is not the kind of life I want to model for my child.   That is not what I want him to believe married love is.  I know what is possible,  I know what is out there for me because I have seen it and was taught well, others have shown me what true love looks like.  So I chose not to settle and I am happier for it.  Even if I am alone at Thanksgiving and Christmas. My child is healthy AND I'm happy!"

I was VERY touched by this statement above.  I can SO relate to every single word.  I might not be alone but my children will be with their father on Thanksgiving.  But knowing the above things I am at peace with it.  At peace that they are not going to grow up thinking that that is the way they have to live their lives and be in a marriage that is full of hurt, anger and resentment.  I chose to leave not only for these reason but other meaningful reasons.  It was the hardest thing I did,  but I have NEVER regretted one minute of it or looked back.  I have made the best out of it and moved on and I am happy!  Happier than I have been in years.  The girls have adjusted well and that makes me happy too.  Life is about taking chances and sacraficing.  Sometimes things are better off even though you think at the time your doing the wrong thing.  I believe that everything happens for a reason and sometimes we dont know what that reason is.  I have a GREAT support system and I am content with my life and where I am.   So please if you are a single mom dont beat yourself up over being alone on the holidays,  just remember that your kids are happy, healthy and that is all that matters.  :)